I’m Yehuda, a social worker, men’s coach, husband, father, and someone who’s faced the same questions that keep many of us up at night.

I used to think I was doing everything right: pushing hard, staying disciplined, facing challenges head-on. But no matter how much I accomplished or how much therapy I did, something still felt off. I was focused on the surface, treating symptoms instead of addressing what was really underneath.

I pushed my mind and body to their limits, thinking intensity would bring peace. I even trained for an Ironman but never made it to race day due to injuries and surgeries. That opened up a different kind of journey, one I hadn’t planned for. It pulled me inward, into an intensity I didn’t know I was avoiding, and forced me to confront what I was really chasing, or maybe trying to escape.

In the midst of building a career, raising a family, and doing my best to be a present husband and father, I faced dark moments. Therapy and support helped, but something was still missing. It took years of honest reflection, mentorship, and deep inner work to uncover the real issue: I didn’t understand my masculinity, and I had no roadmap for living it in a grounded, integrated way.

Once I began to understand that, everything shifted. So much of what men struggle with burnout, emotional disconnection, addiction, anxiety, and a lack of purpose is rooted in their relationship with masculinity. We either reject it, overcompensate for it, or shrink parts of ourselves to fit into outdated ideas of what a man “should” be.

I’ve struggled to reconcile strength with sensitivity, leadership with humility, and power with purpose. I’ve seen many men do the same. That realization reframed my growth and reshaped how I help others. When a man understands his masculinity and the pain he carries, his entire life transforms.

I grew up in a religious home, and today I live a committed Jewish life. That choice came through real questions, detours, and moments of disconnection. I’ve wrestled with belief, identity, and what it means to live a life that feels like my own. What was missing was a deeper understanding of how masculinity weaves into every part of life. It’s not a side issue. It’s foundational. Masculinity shapes how we show up emotionally, relationally, and spiritually. It’s not just about ideals, but about how we live.

That’s the work I do now, not just for myself, but for every man seeking clarity, direction, self-understanding, and self-leadership. I continue to train with the best in men’s work and holistic health because I believe this is lifelong work.

Masculinity isn’t about performance. It’s about alignment. It’s about living with direction, purpose, and meaning as a self-led man. And being self-led doesn’t mean doing it all alone. It means leading yourself with strength, integrity, and openness to growth and vulnerability.